Tag Archive | gadgets

Bluntness and Honesty Outside of Our Family Unit and Home

Psalm Chapter 12 Verses 1 – 4

1 Help, Lord, for no one is faithful anymore;
those who are loyal have vanished from the human race.
2 Everyone lies to their neighbor;
they flatter with their lips
but harbor deception in their hearts.

3 May the Lord silence all flattering lips
and every boastful tongue—
4 those who say,
“By our tongues we will prevail;
our own lips will defend us—who is lord over us?”

I found an article on Facebook and wanted to share it with you.   I start off with my reaction and then you can click on the link underlined below to read the article…

2012-04-05 18.26.33

I liked reading the article but I have tried all of the suggested interventions for the last 10+ years as well as using apps on my son’s Iphone so he can review what to say, who it is appropriate to touch, etc.   So far, he’s 15 and we are STILL experiencing his ‘bluntness’.   I’ve become immune over the years to the stares we receive as a result of his bluntness and though I use each one as a ‘teachable moment’ if something else presents itself and I don’t immediately prompt him with the socially appropriate comments he will say whatever comes to mind.  In fact, even when I do prompt there are times when what he’s thinking slips our anyway.  Also, babysitters are pretty non existent – who do you know that enjoys having there flaws spoken about each time you see them? My son’s bluntness and honesty have been the downfall of many relationships – for him and our entire family.

Since I’m not always around and our extended family is prone to feeling embarrassed, as are other adults and teens;  there are many places our son doesn’t go.  Imagine us trying to get on an airplane or even through an airport.  It would be a nightmare unless he is asleep…..he didn’t talk clearly until 6 1/2 – 7 years old and we thank God he is verbal.  This blessing has come along with many new issues.

He is a social butterfly and would LOVE to have friends but what he says always and I mean ALWAYS ends what can be great friendships.  So, perhaps those ideas will work for others but we are pretty much stuck in a rut here.  I’m a certified preschool thru 3rd grade teacher and many days parenting my son when it comes to social awareness feels like the constant redirection I give to my children at school on a daily basis.

On the other hand, bluntness does run in our family.  His Dad and I are very blunt with what we say but being blunt doesn’t mean you have to be hurtful with your words.  Yes, the truth does hurt many times and a lot of times the things our children say are honest to a fault – not their fault but to our society who is okay with lying to make others feel good.  For all the problems we have with our son’s bluntness many days we feel that the problem is not his honesty but the fact that in order to survive in today’s society one feels that one must LEARN to LIE!

Our son LOVES reading and memorizing verses out of the Holy Bible and one such verse that is a part of our ‘Family Orders’ is :

Tell the truth At All Times ~ “Do things in such a way that everyone can see that you are trustworthy.” Romans chapter  12 Verse 17b.

God’s Word also states in James chapter 3 verses 5 thru 9:

When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness.

The Autism Notebook — 1/18

What do you think? Is your teen/child ‘honest to a fault’?   What are some comments your teen/child has made in public that have made you cringe inwardly or offer an apology to a stranger?  How about some of the comments that you wish you could say but politeness or being politically correct has stopped you?  How do you teach your teen/child when it’s okay to lie and when it’s okay to tell the truth?

The iMums’ iPad Mini Madness! Win an iPad Mini + Case + Apps – Giveaway #1

Please go to the iMums website to enter the contest.   Good Luck & God Bless!

http://www.theimum.com/2012/11/ipad-mini-madness-1/

The iMums are very pleased to launch our series of iPad Mini giveaways with our first prize package sponsored by four wonderful developers – Little Learning Tots, SoGaBee, Loeschware and Heppi Apps. The iPad mini is a great size for children – lighter and easier to carry than the original iPad, but with access to the same great catalog of apps. The prize package, which totals to over $400, includes all you need to get started:-

  • A new Apple iPad mini 16GB WiFi;

  • Cygnett Workmate shock-absorbing iPad mini case;

  • A huge collection of apps to kickstart your iTunes library!

  • Giveaway

Please enter via the Rafflecopter widget below. The giveaway is open worldwide, you must be over 18 years old to enter. The winners must contact The iMums within 48 hours of being announced to claim their prize and must have a valid postal address. We notify winners by email as well as announcing on our website, so make sureinfo(at)theimum.com is on your safe senders list so the email doesn’t get caught in your spam filter or junk mail folder.

There is no charge to enter this giveaway – you just need to give some social media love and help us spread the word about the giveaways. There is one mandatory step to complete- the blog post comment, any additional steps are completely optional. However, you must complete all steps on the first page to be able to unlock the other options. The more steps you complete, the more entries you will have in the giveaway. When the winners name is drawn their entry will be verified and they will be disqualified if they have not done the steps they claim to have done. Please ensure you have read and understand our Terms & Conditions. Good luck!

Surprise Give~Away! Enter here…

I have GREAT news!!!  Nannek has blessed me with 3 codes for the Ipad edition of the Chore Pad!!! 😮

If you are unsure as to what the Chore Pad App is about, please click  Review of Chore Pad App to find out more information.

THIS CONTEST IS OVER!

In order to win one of the app codes, please…

   1) Like this blog.  

   2) Comment below and let me know who the app is for.

   3)  Share my blog on your twitter or facebook account.  Please don’t forget to ping me so I know where you shared the information.  

   4)  The first three people who respond correctly win!!

On Your Mark….Get Set…GO!!!!

Detailed Review of Chore Pad App & Giveaway Extended

We have had this App for almost two months now and it is one of the most used Apps in our family. It has taken me this long to write a review because I wanted to make sure I was writing a review that honestly portrayed the pluses and minuses of the Chore Pad, as I see them. Please note ~ Nannek has amazing customer service and you will receive a response almost immediately regarding any problems, questions or comments you may have. They also welcome any ideas for improvement, so I will share with you in the future how the Chore Pad improves/changes as time progresses.

This is an app that can be used for any member in your home that you need to instill with independence. Chore Pad allows you to input all of your own information; so if you are working on a skill, such as having your teen brush his teeth three times daily; you can set up the Chore Pad accordingly. You also have the ability to download your own ‘avatar’ for each person you add to Chore Pad.

Chore Pad’s creators, Nannek, have installed some basic pictures that can be used and I also added pictures on our Chore Pad using the Emoji App. This helped me to personalize my son’s chores with creative pictures that help him to understand the expectations that were placed on him with each specific chore.

You are able to enter your own rewards, in the reward chest, that your teen will happily work toward. I like that my son is given immediate feedback, without my verbal input! As he checks off each item he completes, he sees and hears his points/stars add up.

As the parent, you can select if you want or don’t want your teen to choose his payouts. I have this enabled in our Chore Pad to give my son a sense of control when it comes to earning his rewards from the chest.

Please note, this app does sync across devices, but you must first purchase an app for your different devices. For example, if you have an Iphone and an Ipad, and you download Chore Pad on your Iphone it will not sync with your Ipad unless you also purchase the Ipad App (Chore PadHD). The added benefit of being able to sync all information from each device used by those in your family is priceless. I feel that the benefits of owning Chore Pad outweigh the cost of purchasing the different Apps.

Some of the areas that make it a challenge for us are:

1) There is no way to ‘really’ lock the app from being changed by the user. As my technically gifted son quickly showed me, one can just go to the app listed in the settings portion of your device and change all of the settings. If your teen is even slightly technically gifted, he will be able to add/delete points, rewards, chores, to sync or not to sync & change the password so you, the parent, can’t get in. 🙂

Nannek’s response: As for locking the app – you are correct – this is where we use to change the settings from back in the day – before we had a “landing page” or settings section in the Chore Pad app itself. Right now we have a release in the queue that is bringing 30 more icons to Chore Pad. Once that is approved by Apple we will be doing another quick update (before the big one with the ability to add your own photos) with minor tweeks and we will add the removal of the options in the settings area on the iPhone/iPad in this update.

2) Once you set up the order of the Chore Pad according to your desires, there is no way to lock the app so that the chores are not moved around on the user’s page. My son has accidentally moved chores by trying to scroll through the chores and the chore he has his finger on has moved with his finger! I also ran across the same issue. This was very frustrating since I spent a great deal of time setting up his chores in a logical manner; to make it easier for him to find the chores he needs to do on which days.

Nannek’s response: We have never seen this as a problem because you can only move the chores by holding the grippy on the right of the chore- we have never had anyone mention this was an issue, but we can definitely add this as a feature in the settings in the near future.

3) There is no way to print out the chores to have a paper copy that you can post in your teen’s room to help him remember what he needs to do daily.

Nannek’s response: Chore Pad does not have printing capability built in. This is something we plan to add as a feature sometime this year. There are currently two options for workaround to this:

1. If you own an Air Print-compatible printer you can take a screenshot (hold the top button and then press the home button) and then send that picture to the printer via AirPrint. Here is a link to Apple’s page on Air Print, with a list of compatible printers: http://www.apple.com/ipad/features/airprint.html

or

2. You can you can take a screenshot then e-mail yourself the photo, then print that way.

4) No capability to download your own pictures for chores.

Nannek’s response: This is something we are working on as I write this :)….

5) No capability to set timers so your teen can automatically know how much more time he has to finish a chore or all of his chores. I got around this fact by putting my son’s chores in order using characters from the Emoji App. So, for chores that need completing by 7AM Monday – Friday, I put a shooting star in front of and list the time 7AM with each chore, etc. Sounds a little confusing, I know, but it makes sense to my son and I and it has helped him to become more independent with his daily chores.

Nannek’s response: The timer is something we have on our list to add also – we hope to add this by the end of the year too!

If you have doubts as to whether or not you want to add Chore Pad to your repertoire of Apps, there is a lite version available for free. This doesn’t have all the bells and whistles of the full App but it does give you a realistic feel for how you can use the App to make life easier for you and your teen.

Thank you Nannek for this creative and helpful App that has made the life of my family easier and not so full of stress when chore time approaches! I’m looking forward to seeing how you improve this App and for other Apps you will create that will be just as, if not more, helpful.

~ CLOSED ~

~ Chore Pad Iphone/Ipod App Giveaway ~

All 3 Codes Donated By Nannek!

How To Enter To Win:

Step 1: ‘Like’ and comment below on this post.

Step 2: Either share this post on your Facebook page, Pin it or Tweet it. Please make sure you copy the following link ~ wife2dondi.wordpress.com ~ in your comments when you share. This will allow me to confirm that you have completed step 2.

How To Find Out If You Are A Winner:

TIME EXTENDED: The 3 Giveaway winners will be announced; via email; between 9am – 5pm (EST) on Wednesday, March 21, 2012.  Winners will have until noon, EST, on March 23, 2012 to contact me! Once you contact me, I will email you your code and announce your first name only, on this page; as a winner.  

Thanks for entering!! Good Luck & God Bless!🙂

IF YOU ARE A WINNER, I MUST HEAR FROM YOU BY NOON (EST) ON FRIDAY, MARCH 23, 2012 OR I WILL HAVE TO CHOOSE ANOTHER WINNER!